Why did many beautiful and strong women in history end up making some cowardly men their love destination? If this is also a kind of complementarity, it is really cruel.

This kind of cruelty was also played out in Liu Rushi, one of the "Qin Huai Eight Yan" in the late Ming Dynasty. Liu Rushi included a beautiful woman, a knight, a celebrity, a genius and other elements. She was beautiful and talented, she was gentle and firm, and Liu Rushi's last boyfriend, Qian Qianyi, was a wobbly talent. Perhaps the mismatch of two people's wills cannot be an obstacle to love. It is not impossible for a strong woman to fall in love with a weak man.

Today, we open a love letter from a strong woman to a weak man, and analyze Liu Ru's love from the depths of our hearts.

This love letter should have been written between the second year of Shunzhi in the Qing Dynasty (1645) and the third year of Shunzhi in the Qing Dynasty (1646). Liu Rushi's husband Qian Qianyi went north from Nanjing to find a job and arrived in the capital for a period of time.

Qian Qianyi was the right attendant of the ceremonial department under Emperor Chongzhen of the Ming Dynasty. After the Qing Dynasty, he was idle at home. Although his family had 10,000 acres of fertile land and a large area of manor and forests, it was no problem living a rich and idle life, but without a unit, he always felt guilty.

She had a bad premonition, so she wrote a letter to persuade her husband to return home. Although it was a letter from home, the focus was on the love between the two, and it was clearly written as a love letter. Next, let's reinterpret this letter in the tone of Liu Rushi and dig for the information revealed between the lines.

Origin: A woman who will never give up if her love is not legendary

The original text of the love letter: In ancient times, the talented and good women, the children and heroes, met very strangely, and it was always not easy. Like Sima Xiangru met Wenjun, like a red flick returning to Li Jing, I secretly admired him.

Love letter interpretation: I have a dream that my love will become a legend passed down through the ages. This legend originated from Sima Xiangru and Zhuo Wenjun, deduced from Li Jing and Hongfu Girl, talented and beautiful, children and heroes, they met, they fell in love, they are legendary, although it is not easy to start and end well, but they have been persevering. In the depths of my heart, there is such a sense of mission and responsibility. To continue their love legend, we cannot let this history have a blank.

Digging information: In such a short paragraph of text, there is an important message: Hongfu Girl and Li Jing. At the end of the Sui Dynasty, the later Li Jing visited Yue Wang Yang Su, and Yang Su's maid Hongfu took a fancy to him, so she ran to Li Jing at night. This is the love model of women chasing men. Liu Ruis is a model of chasing men. Liu Meimei's first love was the famous Chen Zilong. Liu Meimei was a dusty woman at the time, and she admired Chen Zilong to the point where she couldn't close the window like a computer virus. She couldn't hold back to visit, so she sent a post first, using a vest called "female disciple."

Big Brother Chen was an upright gentleman. Seeing the evil vest of the "female brother," he was very useless. He said "what a mess," refused to support each other, and immediately deleted the post. Unexpectedly, the consequences of deleting the post were quite serious. Liu Meimei came to the door to declare war and scolded: "There are heroes in the wind and dust, and your surname Chen is not knowledgeable, so you have the courage to be a famous person." Without scolding and not knowing each other, Chen Zilong and Liu Meimei became close friends. Although "Chen Liulian" is legendary and romantic, the two have no fate, and the love ended without a disease. In love, fate is only an early job, and if you want to develop into a married state, the job is a later job. The latter job cannot keep up, and without your share, the previous fate is useless.

Liu Ru is in love with men's clothing.

In 1640, during the winter of the 13th year of Chongzhen in the Ming Dynasty, 22-year-old Liu Rushi braved the wind and snow, driving a flat boat, and took the initiative to visit Qian Qianyi, a great talent and socialite at that time. Liu Rushi dressed up carefully for this date. She played the style of the men's gang, and came to the men's clothing show. The male attire instead made the women's beauty erupt; she used a silk towel to restrain the black hair on her head at will, and she was lazy and charming. "A bow towel (, shoes), wearing men's clothing. Biography of Hedong Jun ) " Qian Qianyi was conquered, and the sigh at that time was "Merry Beauty."

Seeing this, do we believe in love again? Not necessarily, Liu Rushi is also a real person, she confessed the material factors in this love.

Insider: The love of a talented and beautiful woman also needs to be smashed with money.

Summary of the original text of the love letter: Year after year, due to the extravagance of clothing and the consumption of food, I can't make ends meet… Ever since my husband humiliated the Han family, I fell in love at first sight, and I had a secret conversation. This evening was full of kindness, and I swore like a mountain, which I have never had in my life, so I felt that there is still joy in entering the world. After spending thousands of dollars, I have to commit myself... This love affair is like a day for ten years.

Love letter interpretation: There was a time in my life, full of joy, but no love. In the early morning full of flowers, in the charming moonlight night, the young man, the merry master, the love is lingering, endless, and the wine is cup after cup. Without love, however, it will only be empty clouds, without true laughter, it will only be as tasteless as wax.

After the clouds passed, I was left with material debts, such as fashion, delicious food, and luxurious houses. None of them saved money. Because of the material troubles, I had a spiritual desire to escape, and I wanted to cut off the eight thousand troubles and isolate the troubles of the world.

However, you came, you saved me from the dual troubles of material and emotional, spiritually we are full of kindness, swearing like a mountain; materially, you squandered thousands of dollars, allowing me to support myself. Little by little, drop by drop, ten years of accumulated emotions, as if in a day.

Digging information: From Liu Ru's self-report, it is not difficult to see that Liu Ru was visiting Teacher Qian in a snowy boat. On the one hand, she was seeking an emotional breakthrough, and on the other hand, she was seeking a material breakthrough. A famous brand and luxurious enjoyment, there must be someone to pay for it.

Legendary love may also be expensive love, and someone has to pay for it. Let's see how Teacher Qian pays for his girlfriend. According to the "Biography of Hedong Jun" written by Qian Qianyi's student Gu Ling (Hedong Jun is Liu Rushi): Teacher Qian and Liu Meimei settled their relationship on the seventh day of the sixth lunar month in 1641. Teacher Qian built a special building for Liu Meimei: Jiangyun Building. What is inside?

Liu Meimei is a cultural person, and the furnishings inside cannot be vulgar; Teacher Qian is also a rich man, and the furnishings inside cannot be poor. What is both rich and elegant? Collectibles! In Jiangyun Building, there are cauldrons from the Shang, Zhou and Qin Dynasties, jade from the Warring States Period, pendants from the Han Dynasty, famous calligraphy posts from the north and south of the Wei, Jin Dynasty, and porcelain from official kilns in the Song Dynasty. People who like to collect ancient books should know the Song edition books. The Song edition books are now sold at sky-high prices. In the late Ming Dynasty, they should also be precious things, but in Jiangyun Building, the Song edition books reach tens of thousands of volumes.

The Jiangyun Building was a cultural temple piled with gold and silver. In the temple, there was a pair of talented and beautiful people who tasted tea, paintings, and famous invitations all day long.

You love me with money, and I will repay you with literature and art, and although Liu Meimei doesn't have a lot of money in her pocket, she is very creative. On Teacher Qian's birthday, Liu Meimei couldn't give diamond agate, but only a red bean with "the most acacia for this thing", which actually moved Teacher Qian to the extreme; then he asked someone to dig a longevity character on the ground and plant wheat. When autumn came, a golden longevity character grew, which moved Teacher Qian to the point where he almost fell from upstairs. Unfortunately, the Song edition books in Jiangyun Building, those tripods from the Shang Dynasty, and jade from the Han Dynasty were all equated with a red bean and half an acre of wheat.

The conclusion: A strong woman, a weak talent

The original text of the love letter: The concubine thought that the husband was rich enough and his achievements were high, so she just happened to be in the forest spring to entertain the evening scene. Although the concubine is not more beautiful than Wenjun and Hongfu's talents, she has been able to chase and walk with the staff and learn from Dongpo, the servant of the clouds, and this life, I wish it was enough.

Love letter interpretation: The times are changing, dear, but you are still running around, braving the wind and frost, not afraid of trekking, from now on, I can only live with a solitary lamp. Dear, come back, let us live in the woods and springs, wandering under the willows in the south of the Yangtze River, driving a painting boat, shuttling through the smoke waves. I am no better than Wenjun and Hongfu, but I am willing to learn from the Chaoyun around Master Su, and it is enough to travel and love each other with you for a lifetime.

Digging Information: The intent of this paragraph is very deep, in fact, to a certain extent, it reveals dissatisfaction with Qian Qianyi. In 1645, during the Ming and Qing Dynasties, Liu Ru wanted to die for the integrity of the feudal era. She didn't miss it, just did what she said, jumped into the water with a plop, and then asked Qian Qianyi to jump together. Qian Qianyi acted very humble, tried the water, and hesitated to say: The water is too cold, I'm afraid I'll catch a cold.

Since you can't stick to your integrity, you should be detached and live a quiet non-mainstream life. Anyway, "you are rich enough and your achievements are high", but Teacher Qian can't let go and go all the way to find fame. Weak people are destined not to be calm, because there are many desires; calm people are strong, because they don't ask for much. Teacher Qian failed to seek fame, but ended up in prison. Liu Meimei did not despise him because of his lover's cowardice. The so-called love for him is not only about his talent and generosity, but also about his weakness, and even about his meanness. A weak woman carried a bag and went north to save her husband, but she actually rescued him. Qian Qianyi was moved to write a poem: "From the journey to the difficulties, there is a good wife."

A beautiful and strong woman, unswervingly in love with a talented, rich but weak, even slightly less than the integrity of a man, may be the legend of love.